My February Book Club recommendation is “8 Rules of Love” by Jay Shetty.

Shetty is a Monk that draws on ancient wisdom and new science to help us learn about love.

“Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love. So we’re often thrown into relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through.”

His 8 rules to loving stems from solitude, compatibility, healing and connection.

The 8 Rules are:

Let Yourself Be Alone

Don’t Ignore Your Karma

Before You Think It, Feel It, Or Say It

Your Partner Is Your Guru

Purpose Comes First

Win Or Lose Together

You Don’t Break In A Breakup

Love Again and Again

Dating again as a divorced adult in my mid forties was a very interesting experience. 😜 So many new things including dating apps, social media and all the trauma that I now carried because of my marriage and through my divorce.

I didn’t trust anyone! I also didn’t need anyone and didn’t want to be married again because my previous experience had been so bad.

I love his thoughts on attracting what you use to impress. It’s crazy how often people put forward who they want people to believe they are but it’s not sustainable at all.

I love learning about having the patience to wait for someone instead of hanging on to someone because it’s better to have somebody instead of nobody.

I also love his practices of love with attraction, dreams, struggle and growth with trust. Each of these were crucial in my dating process.

I love that I found Mark and that I am so attracted to him. I love that we once thought in the unfairness of divorce that many of our hopes and dreams were taken or lost. I love that being together we have reignited our dreams and built even better ones together in ways that we never thought was possible. Certainly getting married again later in life and blending a family has been a growing experience but in so many ways it has been amazing too. Trust for me will most likely be a lifelong healing process because of my past marriage. I appreciate Mark and his patience and integrity.

What have you learned in dating again?

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