Always a Newlywed
Yup! Mark and I still consider ourselves newlyweds and we have made a goal to always be.
No doubt, our decisions to move forward with a forced divorce came with heartbreak, betrayal trauma, unfairness and devastation. It was really sad and so hard! AND with time and perspective we both see how it has provided so many more different and positive opportunities for us too.
Not only did being divorced create a path for us to meet eachother but we also get to be in a relationship that is more true to who we are and better than we ever thought was possible.
We were both in marriages where our partners were working hard to choose other things while we were bending over backwards in unhealthy ways because we didn’t really know the whole story. We thought we were doing the right thing even though it didn’t feel right. We trusted them more than ourselves.
Then when we had enough of the information to know why we chose to get divorced, we also got to choose. And I love that one of those things is eachother.
We have had to forgive ourselves in our exhausting efforts before because now those same intentions with the right person feel so thriving because it’s valued and not abused. Our marriage feels like it has been one of the many blessings of true compensation from God.
Because of blending 9 amazing and busy kids, we determined we need to be deliberate in making time for eachother. This includes in our daily routines of life. We cook, shop, workout, run errands and do house and yard work simultaneously. At night we collectively clean up, talk, plan and connect.
This also means we hug, hold hands, snuggle, we have a love seat when we watch kids games and we go out on dates frequently. We schedule staycations, overnighters and vacations. I love that we both want to live our greatest adventures and joyous experiences together.
We hear often how it seems like we were meant for eachother as if this was how it was designed to be. We couldn’t agree more.
Divorce is hard AND a springboard for significant opportunities.
What talents do you have that have been a blessing in a healthy relationship?
