Boundaries

Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is usually the most difficult for those that we need them for the very most.

Do not drop the boundaries you have worked hard to identify, create and support just because someone calls you mean, selfish, un-Christlike, immature, unreasonable, unforgiving or anything alike. Even if they feel they have changed and it’s unfair to be held to their past mistakes in the present. You are where you are because of your history and you need to feel safe.

Anyone outside your most inner circle, which sometimes is only you, should not dictate what your boundaries look like. Boundaries also don’t always need to be specifically communicated to the offender either. They can be set by making your own personal changes.

Be prepared that the adjustments are not usually well received and that there will most likely be a lot of kick back.

It is almost a guarantee that those that they are set for will also be the most vocal to you and others by calling you some of these names in a manipulated effort to be able to go back to where they have control of what they want. You may never be able to put out all their fires but in time those that really know you will understand.

Knowing why you need to set the boundaries helps to hold yourself accountable when it is very very difficult.

The amazing thing about boundaries is that they can be modified when earned. Understanding what it would take in order to alter a boundary is also crucial in the healing process.

“Boundaries” is just one of the many topics we will discuss in The University of YOU Women’s group coaching.

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