I had my sister for Christmas and so I researched to find the perfect gift. She was in remission for breast cancer and I was wanting to find something that represented her strength and growth in her fight.

I found and bought her a bracelet that had a butterfly charm on it. I loved what it represented and that the poem that came with it said:

“It might not seem so at first, but everything happens for a reason. The same things that tear us apart are what ultimately make us stronger. Spending their entire lives evolving from one state to another, butterflies experience life in stages, constantly progressing and embracing transformation. The other side of recovery is rediscovery- what once was lost, now is found.”

Well, I accidentally ordered two and had intentions to return it after the holidays.

Thankfully I didn’t because my big D-day happened on that same Christmas morning.

My life as I knew it fell completely apart. I had my husband of 21 years move out for what I thought would be a temporary separation. Lies kept unraveling and my days began to creep along while I was barely surviving each day.

In cleaning up the things from the holidays I came across my extra bracelet I bought and I was brought to tears. It was like I had been my own accidental answer to my prayers of love and support.

That bracelet became a tangible symbol of bravery I doubted I had. I knew I would never be the same but I was unsure how it would end.

I put the poem on my vision board. It was the only other thing I had on there besides a picture of me with my kids.

I love having the perspective now that by being forced to accept transformation I have found what was lost in myself, my marriage, my ideals, my hope and dreams to rediscover all of it again but in a better, more refined and clearer way.

I love that the butterfly is my logo and symbol. I love that when I see a butterfly it still offers me hope. I love that my kids and Mark will notice them too. I love that it is a part of my new life.

What symbol came to you after your D-day that offered you hope?

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