I have recently had several clients dealing with the heavy unfairness of divorce. Certainly there is no “fair” in divorce.

I am sorry that you chose to stay longer than you should have because you felt it was safer for your kids for you to take the abuse and try and protect them.

I am so sorry that you never lived in a way that you should be divorced.

I am sorry that part of divorce was splitting finances and not being the full time parent you wanted.

I am sorry that they stopped choosing you but made it so difficult you had to initiate a forced divorce.

I’m sorry they tell the kids the new hard is your fault because you filed first. You didn’t fail, your marriage ended because you were no longer willing to accept or tolerate them treating you the way they did anymore.

I am sorry that you are their punching bag when they are unhappy because you are one of the few that has ever held them accountable to their actions.

I am sorry that their abuse continues to you and your kids and especially when the legal system doesn’t protect them.

I am sorry for the loss of relationships, especially from those that are still in their fun house of mirrors.

I am sorry they chose the divorce for what seemed better. I love that now you get to choose what’s better for you!

I am sorry your kids are forced to interact with their affair partner. The very person that assisted their own parents lies and a lack of integrity. They are already sorting through their own betrayal trauma from their parent.

I am sorry that people criticize you for your boundaries because it is uncomfortable for them. Another trauma layer.

I am sorry that you have to fight for your legal rights they disregard and then they call you controlling or bitter.

I am sorry they don’t exercise their custody time and blame you for it.

I am sorry for their unwillingness to pay their financial obligations.

I am sorry for those still stuck in the dark hole of divorce and you can’t see the light.

I am sorry they make it so hard you want to quit.

Don’t you dare give up! I promise in their challenges yet to come it also gets WAY better and in ways you can’t comprehend.

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