It Was Totally Worth It!
Mark and I have had several events to celebrate our children. At times we have been asked ”Was it worth it?”
Really, they are asking us if we can answer for our exes and if their walking away was worth it.
We both know that both of them made several very deliberate choices for years not choosing us or the lives we thought we had built with them. Both of us witnessed that what they wanted and picked was not us and in ways can lead one to believe it was “worth it.”
But for us, our answer that we can indefinitely say is “Yes!!!”
At one time the divorce was soul crushing and we both couldn’t understand how this could be our reality. Having them abandon what had been is one of the greatest blessings of our lives. We were bending in unhealthy ways to preserve what we thought was true.
Now we get to choose our path and we’ve both worked really hard in our healing. In that process we are reminded of who we are and what we have always fought for. We are still us, just more refined with a clearer lens and more empathy for those that travel our similar road.
I love that neither Mark or I needed anyone but finding and being together has only enhanced us as a couple. I am constantly impressed with all that Mark is, chooses and stands for. We have gratitude for divorce because it gave us the opportunity to find eachother and build a life together that feels more true to ourselves.
This summer has again been filled with so much appreciation for the hard so we can have these many magical moments together as partners and with our woven family. This is exactly how we have always wanted it but didn’t believe it could ever be. We wouldn’t want all that has been any other way.
We really believe this was how it was always meant to be. I know God is very aware of us and our timing and now we love being able to say, “It was totally ALL worth it and we would do it again to be where we are now.”
We didn’t always believe this but had at times just a sliver of hope that kept us putting one foot in front of the other.
Was there a time when hope was the only thing that gave you the courage and strength to accelerate forward?
