We Got This!

This memory popped up and it’s crazy the emotions attached to a picture back in time.

This picture symbolizes absolute hope and a powerful confidence moving forward with divorce because although I knew it was scary and unknown, we were going to be okay.

This was a family trip we gave the kids for Christmas. That was also the day I found out he was living a double life. In an effort of feeling sorry for himself he bowed out of the trip and it caught me at the right moment of not over accommodating like I had done so many times before. So, it was just the kids and me on our family vacation.

I had travelled alone with my kids several times before but this time I felt transparent like everyone knew my husband had betrayed and left me. And that I was now a “single mom” on vacation with my kids over Spring Break. Well, nobody even said a word to me or us because I was alone with them ever. Throughout the trip I had my first moments feeling like “we got this!” I quickly realized living like a single mom while married had its perks.

It was these boys that kept me waking up, getting out, functioning, going forward and healing to be a better version of myself. It was them that cried with me and helped manage some of my triggers. I both hate and love that they know what to do when they see me spinning because of a trigger.

I love that this is a memory with a perspective of then to now. One son is married and the others are so grown up. They are doing amazing.I am beyond proud and admire their strength and courage. This trial in life made us all healthier.

I am so sorry if you relate to this snapshot in time of feeling like your life changes because of divorce feel too overwhelming. It is a pivotal moment in time. I pray you have the strength to find something to pull you from the despair. Even if all it really can be is HOPE!