What's Betrayal Trauma?

“Betrayal trauma occurs when the people or institutions on which a person depends for survival significantly violates that person’ s trust or well-being.” -Jennifer Freyd

When I realized I was experiencing betrayal trauma because of the discoveries of my husbands acting out from his addictions, my healing journey began.

Stepping out of the “fun house mirrors” and seeing his real person versus the one he wanted to be seen was shocking and an adjustment.

How could I be so deceived?

How did I not know earlier?

Why did I trust him so much?

Why did I think it was a good marriage?

There are so many questions that now I am okay that I don’t have the answers. My truths and what I know without a doubt are enough.

I had adapted to an unhealthy and abusive environment where I was surviving everyday but I didn’t even know I was dying inside.

I started out in the negative and have been climbing out and up..higher and higher each day. I am happier today than before I even knew the truth. It’s taken hard work, time with patience and forgiveness for especially myself for doing the best I could with the information I had at the time.

Have you experienced betrayal trauma?

I am here for you. I understand it and have been where you are before.

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