A friend sent me this and it made laugh but now it seems like a light hearted way of sharing one of my New Years resolutions that I need the help of others.

It’s been 3 years now since I was separated that quickly led to a forced divorce. I have so much gratitude for how speedily it was finalized, especially now.

But ever since then people want to share with me things about him.

Earlier on there was information that helped me piece some of my suspicion’s together and most details would have been more helpful years earlier when they first knew. But even with all that has come forward I already know enough hard truths as to why I am divorced. I chose this for a reason and one of them is so I don’t have to know what he is picking for his life anymore.

Still people want to inform me of their observations, opinions or interactions with him. I know some are trying to still process and make sense of what happened or what they see but to me there is rarely shock anymore to anything that is new. The person I thought he was never really existed.

So, next time you see me and want to share or ask about my ex, please know that I honestly believe you mean well but the answer is “I don’t know. I don’t want to know.”

I would love to converse instead about the many amazing things in my life. I’m in a relationship with an incredible companion. My kids are growing up and thriving. I mentor and Life Coach people that have experienced betrayal trauma stemmed from addiction similar to his. I live in a stellar community where I’m involved and interact with the best people everyday. I love life and the opportunity to see with a clearer lens.

I know in helping others I am not alone in this request. I know every divorce is unique but please consider asking a person about the things in their life. Maybe they want to share hardships but allow them the opportunity to choose.

Thank you to so many that have loved, supported and prayed for my kids and me. We are where we are because of you! I am so blessed.

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